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I’ve been blogging for over 4 years now. That’s 484 blog posts on this blog. I have blogged about everything that has been happening in the life of my family. From vacations, to raising our children, food I’ve made, my photography and design, documenting our crazy life, life and death, hopes, dreams, faith…you name it!

So many topics that it got me thinking. What have been my most popular posts? In case you are curious too, I looked it up my WordPress Stats page and here are my top 5 posts {drum roll, please}….

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Number 1: Donut Party. My daughter’s 8th birthday party was a donut theme. She’s not much of a cake lover, that’s reason for the donuts. I even design her very own Alex’s Donut Shop Logo to put on all the party swag.

Number 2: Crazy Bird. As I was saying earlier about documenting our crazy life, this time it was a crazy woodpecker that broke into our house and harassed us.

Number 3: Birthday Party Ideas. You guys like your parties. Besides the donut party, I posted a Hao! Kai-Lan party for $60, our annual ice cream social, a Halloween themed birthday party, punk princess party, Candyland theme birthday, Ice Sk8ter party, and hubby’s 50th birthday party. We like parties too.

Number 4: Advent Begins…Hope, Preparation, Joy, Love. I shared our family traditions of Advent.

Number 5: Saying Sorry. Is saying, “sorry” good enough? If you say that one little word does it make the wrong okay? Is it enough to be forgiven?

I had a craft blog for almost year before I started over with got2havefaith blog. Why the name got2havefaith? Well, it steams from this post. In a nut shell, hubby and I found out we were pregnant with our second child. I was excited. He was freaked out. I would always say, “You have to have faith that it will all work out.” God has a plan. Got2havefaith was born and Faith became that baby’s middle name.

My very first post on this new blog: So, you Want to be a Princess?

Two of my favorite blog posts: Motherhood…it’s Tough and Finding Joy in the Simple Things.

The post with the most comments: Marriage is… Written in September 2010 this post continues to surprise me when I receive a comment on it. And, who doesn’t love nice comments?

I hope that even if you have just stumbled upon my blog by accident, or have been reading for a while, you would check out some older stuff too. Who knows, you might see something you haven’t seen before. And, I want to thank everyone who has subscribed to my blog, clicks the “Like” button, leaves comments and stops by to read. You guys rock! Even though I write this blog for me as a creative outlet, I love to know that you are enjoying it too. I won’t lie, it is a bit of an ego boost. 😉

So, there it is…my stats. Have you checked yours?

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I am trying it out…’cause I love apps!

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Motherhood is tough.

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MOTHERHOOD: It’s the hardest job in the world. It’s the most thankless job in the world. We are grossly underpaid. It’s the most important job we will ever have. There are no manuals to prepare us for it. Sure, there are books…a lot of books...but none are concise. So we are really left to just wing it. There are no sick days, paid vacations or promotions. We will be yelled at, have food flung at us, complained to, maybe hit or kicked, cried on, ran to, ran from, hugged, kissed, hated, puked on and loved, all at any given minute. And we say we wouldn’t change it for the world.

Or, would we?

First of all… I would get paid! Paid big time. I would get a paid vacation, preferably to a topical island sans kids. And for a minimum of 2 weeks, thank you. I would have a maid to keep the kids’ rooms clean. No more digging out an endless stream of dirty socks and candy wrappers from under their bed.

The only kind of wine in my house would be the red or pink kind. A healthy dinner would magically appear on the table before anyone had a chance to have a melt-down from hunger. And a meal that the kids would eat, without complaint.

And lastly, I would wear designer heels, meet my hubby at the front door, drink in hand, when he came home from a long day at work, because all would be perfect in the world.

{Sigh.} A girl can dream.

Check this out: 101 Tips to Become a Better Mom of Faith.

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i am that mom

I am that mom who yells at her kids sometimes. Who expects too much of them. Then feels guilty for it. I am that mom who is a card-caring member of the “Mommy Guilt Club”.

I am that mom who is just trying to do my best…without the aid of prescription medications, or a martini (or two). I am that mom that feels stressed, anxious and happy all at the same time.

I am that mom that would step in front of a speeding car to save her kids. I am a fiercely protective mother. Don’t even think about bullying my kid.

I am that mom that blows off homework some nights because life is too short to stress over teaching the difference between an adverb and an adjective. I am that mom that lets her kid use a calculator sometimes. Because long division is hard.

I am that mom that sometimes “phones it in” when it comes to healthy dinners. Chicken nuggets and mac ‘n cheese are okay to feed your kids…just don’t do it every night of the week.

I am that mom that desperately wants a day to herself – with no kids – but then can’t wait to see them again.

I am that mom that has taken her daughter’s bedroom door off the hinges because she slammed it out of anger. I believe in punishment, fair and consistent. Life is full of consequences. It starts at home. There is no “get out of jail free card” in life.

I am that mom that prays over her sleeping kids at night. I am that mom that asks God for parenting guidance…and, most of all, patience. I am that mom that instills faith in God in my children. I am that mom that will check the doors to be sure they are locked twice before going to bed. I may have OCD.

I am that mom that also has a membership to the “Mean Mom Club” in her wallet. I say “No” to my kids. Often. Some days I feel I should say “Yes” more. And I feel guilty about that too. Usually I don’t.

I am that mom that thinks kids should have time to be kids. That they shouldn’t be over-scheduled with sporting events, over-the-top birthday parties and play dates. I believe they should stay in their pj’s on a Saturday morning and watch cartoons til noon every once in a while.  I am that mom that will say “No” so that I am not over-scheduled and over-whelmed. No is not a bad word.

I am that mom that sometimes lets her kids eat too much candy and watch too much TV…and I don’t feel guilty about it, most days anyway.

I am that mom that has put off going to the dentist because I needed to pay for coaching lessons for the future ice skater in the house. And I don’t feel guilty about it.

I am that mom that insists on good table manners, being respectful of others, no hitting, and sharing. I am that mom that will correct other people’s kids if they are in my house. Other Moms may not agree with that. My house, my rules.

I am that mom that has caught her child’s puke in her hand, more times than I can remember. And it didn’t even phase me. Bring it on!

I am that mom that has let the kids paint on the nice kitchen table because they are finally not fighting with each other. I didn’t say I don’t stress over the mess. I am just saying THEY ARE NOT FIGHTING. Peace and quiet doesn’t come free. And paint cleans up with water. I hope.

I am that mom that wants my kids to be happy, productive and successful without sacrificing myself along the way.

Yes, I am A MOM, but I am also a woman, a wife, an artist, a photographer, a friend. Don’t forget that.

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is saying “sorry” enough?

sorry-coverWhen my oldest daughter was younger we had “problems” with a neighbor child. He would always hit. He didn’t care where he was or who was watching, he would hit my daughter. At my home I made it crystal clear that hitting is not allowed.

Period.

I went as far as to scold him in my home. When this child would hit, his mother would always respond in the same manner. “Son, say sorry!” She never reprimanded him for hitting. She only told him to say “sorry”. She never explained why he was saying “sorry”. She never told him what he had done was wrong. As if the word “sorry” would make the bruise on my child’s arm go away. He would always give a half-hearted “sorry” and the mom went on about whatever she was doing before hand. I, however, was never convinced the child was truly sorry or really understood why he was told to say that word. I don’t think he comprehended the meaning of it.

It got to the point that my daughter did not want him to come to our house, “Beacuse he hits, Mommy.” I told her that saying “sorry” doesn’t make your actions okay. And I won’t allow him to hit her.

A “sorry” doesn’t negate bad behavior.

There have been some perfect examples of this type of bad behavior in the news lately…Kanye West, President Obama, the reporters that tattle-taled on Obama, Serena Williams, Joe Wilson and so on. These people act badly, appalling really, and think that a simple “sorry” will cut it. They knew what they were saying at the time was wrong, but did it anyway. 

So what if they acted like a spoiled-rotten toddler? Can we say whatever we want, do whatever we want just as long as we say “sorry” the next day. Who cares if we really mean it; we just need to say the words…right?

Not right.

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“Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.” Proverbs 15:4 NLT

I’ve been loosing my temper lately. A lot. I am ashamed to say that I find myself yelling at my kids a little more for the littlest infractions. Sometimes I catch myself in the middle of a psycho-mommy moment and stop. Other days…well, let’s just say “the day is long and my fuse is short.”

As if my life isn’t chaotic and demanding enough, anxiety has taken hold of my life over the last few years. That is just one more stress to add to the pile and at times the stress is overwhelming. As mothers the pressure is on to be “good” at all times.

I know that I am not alone with my feelings. Every mother can relate. The demands are high. Demands come from every direction; work, housework, school, wife, activities, family, friends, finances and life in general.

Realizing that taking my own stress out on my loved ones is the wrong way to go about life. I have already seen the signs in my oldest daughter – out of frustration she yells too. So, before it is too late, I am taking steps to stop this destructive behavior.

This is not the legacy I want to hand down to my kids. I don’t want them to remember that mommy yelled all the time. I want them to see the happy me. How we talk to our kids teaches them how to talk to others.

Everyday is a life lesson. It’s more pressure, but the reward is great.

Admitting I have a problem is the first step to change. I have been praying to God for guidance. Enlisting help from Him will help me control my tongue.

I have posted the above scripture on my refrigerator door. Every time I open the door I will read it until it becomes ingrained in my brain. Seeing the Lord’s word everyday will give me strength.

Is there something you need to change in your life? Have faith He will lead you in the direction you need to go. Ask and you shall receive.

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motherhood…it’s tough

I had a conversation with my girlfriend that got me thinking about my mother friends. Why does it seems that the “media” today tend to criticize us mothers for the job we do? To often mothers are told what we are doing wrong rather than what we are doing right; there are several reality shows built on this very concept. After I had Alex, advice (mostly unwanted) came from all over. She was colicky… “…put cereal in her bottle”. “You fed her peanut butter before she was 1 year old? Are you crazy?” “What? She still is on the bottle? She is 1 year and 1 day old…take that bottle away already!” I spent the better part of her first 2 years second-guessing myself. And, too often we mothers are even quick to judge other mothers. Be honest; what happens when you see a kid having a super-sized meltdown in the super market? You think, “Where’s his mother?!” Or the baby on the plane that won’t stop crying. “Mom, shut that kid up!” Of course, we say these things to ourselves, or at the very least under our breathe. And don’t forget when a kid does something horribly wrong, it’s the mother that gets most of  the blame for not raising her child right. (Just think Columbine. The media here was very critical on the mothers of those 2 boys.) Last time I checked dad had something to do with raising a child too.

Let’s face it, Motherhood it tough. Sometimes it’s down right brutal.  I am the first to admit I am not a perfect mother. I yell when I shouldn’t. I curse at the wrong time and then my 2-year-old repeats it. I let my girls eat cake and spoil their dinner. But I do good mother things too. I tell them I love them every single day. I make them wear their bike helmets and buckle them up in their car seats. I teach them right from wrong, to have empathy for others. I make them eat their veggies and nurture their self-esteem… and to be gentle with our pet mice so they don’t squish them.

My point is this: Let’s focus more on our “good” mother qualities and less on our short comings. No mother is perfect.I have yet to meet a mother that is perfect. So, to all my mother friends, know that you are a good mother. You, like every other mother struggles with “mommy guilt”, discipline issues, balancing motherhood and womanhood, and we do all this without pulling our hair out, strangling someone or with the paparazzi taking our picture. We do it everyday. Be empathetic to that mother having a “bad” mom moment because we’ve all been there. (I was once that Mom on a flight from Denver to Kansas City with the screaming baby. It was painful for me too!) Enjoy your children because someday you will miss this. Give yourself a break, pat yourself on the back and repeat after me…Happy Mother’s Day to Me!

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